What the Goal is not…

I had a huge epiphany about parenting – maybe this only struck me like a ton of bricks, but maybe you can relate too?


I got my parenting goals a little confused. Somehow, I thought that because I’ve accepted Christ, and am covered by His grace and forgiveness, that I could pass perfection onto my kids. Not that they would be forgiven because I am, but because “I got it” I could teach them to not need it. Without ever truly thinking it out, I think my goal and parenting plans included raising kids that were perfect. But that’s not the goal, at all. In fact, that’s not even possible.


My kids will make mistakes, daily. And my job as their Momma is not to cover up, avoid, hide from, or pretend like mistakes don’t happen. My job is to remind them of why we need Jesus, why His sacrifice makes a difference for us, and how much He loves us. My job is to teach them to seek Jesus daily, asking for forgiveness, and grace.


I also get to teach them to share grace with others. Something tells me, that even if it were possible and I raised perfect kids, they wouldn’t be so pleasant. If they didn’t need grace, what would teach them to give grace? We all need grace. We need the grace from our Father in heaven; we need grace from friends and family, and even strangers. My kids need grace from me and I, equally, need grace from them.


We make mistakes daily, and I think the greatest thing we can teach our kids about mistakes is to respond properly to them. We can teach our kids to recognize mistakes, and to seek forgiveness from God, and from the person whom they offended. We also get to teach them to forgive themselves, and more importantly, to accept forgiveness from God. This is something I will have to be very intentional about as a parent, because I have a hard time accepting forgiveness. I struggle with extreme guilt over things that have long been over.


How do you respond when your kids make a mistake? How can you change or improve your response to help them grow?


About Regina Walker

I am a Jesus-girl, wife, mom, writer, sister, daughter, baker, cook, maid, teacher, business partner, farmer, and more. I am busy raising kids, and praying daily for them to be servants of Christ. I am the blessed wife of a very hard working man, together we own and operate our own business. We live on a small farm where we are learning more about sustainable living. We do our best to enjoy life, help others, and use the talents God gave us for His glory. Our goal is to teach our kids to do the same. I welcome all emails - you can reach me at reginawalker86@gmail.com - feel free to email me anytime, just be patient in waiting for my response!
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