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When things go awry…

Regina Walker

When things go awry during the day, do you smile and go with the flow? Or do you try to get things back on the scheduled/planned course?

Do you think time out is an effective method for helping kids regroup their thoughts and get back on track?

If yes, why?

If no, what do you recommend?

Published by Regina Walker

I am a Jesus-girl, wife, mom, writer, sister, daughter, baker, cook, maid, teacher, farmer, and more. I am busy raising kids, and praying daily for them to be servants of Christ. I am the blessed wife of a very hard working man. We live on a small farm where we are learning more about sustainable living. We do our best to enjoy life, help others, and use the talents God gave us for His glory. Our goal is to teach our kids to do the same. I welcome all emails - you can reach me at reginawalkerauthor@gmail.com - feel free to email me anytime, just be patient in waiting for my response!

15 thoughts on “When things go awry…”

  1. I always felt terrible about sending my kiddos on time outs and soon after that I realized I don’t need to do something I do not believe in. So now I always take it easy and stop for 30 seconds before I react. It makes wonders, I tell you! 🙂

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  2. I had to read your post because I love the word “awry”! When I was younger, when things went wrong, my usual response was to freak out, get depressed and wonder why God hated me. Now, after many years and many things gone awry, I realize that it is just life and you deal with it. When things go wrong is when you see people’s real character revealed.

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    1. Thank you for reading and sharing! You are right about people’s character being revealed when things go wrong.

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  3. I don’t deal well with things getting off schedule :-< I've had to learn to go with the flow much more gracefully since I became a mother. I have used time outs in the past but I'm not sure how effective they were. My children respond much better to a threat to take away their toys or dessert. LOL.
    I found your post through the problogger Discussion Post contest. I am participating too.

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  4. When things go awry I sit back and keep shut!

    My belief system says that everything is conserved and connected, if I have peachy times in my life journey, it doesn’t guarantee that it’ll be for ever – and its better for me if I keep myself prepared for unfavorable times as well 🙂 So I second Betty Jo’s opinion 😀

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  5. Great question. I tend to get a bit ‘uppity’ when things go awry, but quickly remind myself that life’s too short to be rankled, and get back on track with something that diverts my attention as soon as possible. (Found you via the Problogger challenge).

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  6. When things go awry, I WANT to smile and go with the flow, and very often do. Sometimes, being a human being gets in the way and I will rush or push to get things back on track, but find this to be less effective (and happy) many times 🙂 I do NOT think that time-outs are beneficial for anyone. I practice “gentle parenting” as much as possible, and, as Aha! Parenting suggests, (http://www.ahaparenting.com/) do not use time-outs with my kiddo. I think that when kids have big feelings, or stress, which is usually what causes mishaps, they need empathy and understanding and that sending them to time-out just creates a lack of trust and teaches them that it is right to put someone who is hurting away someplace instead of dealing with the real problem. This is not to say that limits should not be firmly set! Well, I just wanted to put in my two cents. Thanks for the post.
    Good thoughts, Karen
    http://kartwheels.org/

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    1. Karen, thank you for sharing your thoughts and methods. Aha Parenting is not a resource I’ve ever heard of! I appreciate your two cents.

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  7. I will “smile and go with the flow” as long as what is sidetracking us is educational or productive. If not, I remind my kids that if they don’t stay on track, they will still be studying when it’s time for bed.

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