To The Mom of a Daughter with Hair

I am sorry. I used to think horrible things about your daughter’s hair, or your keeping of her hair, honestly. Things like, “Is it that hard to run a brush through her hair?”

Things like, “Is it that hard to wash her hair every day?”

I couldn’t stand seeing little girls with ratty, messy, dirty, unkempt hair. It just really annoyed me. Prior to the birth of my daughter, I had only boys. In our blended family, there are 4 boys before the girl happened. Boy hair is easy–and if you’re in public and a boy gets food in his short hair (and mine always have short hair) you just rub a wipe in/over/around the spot and clean it up.

Well, I am sorry to you. I am sorry for thinking I was perfect or had my act together or could keep a girl’s hair managed. I didn’t expect fancy hair, I swear! Mine is always clean and put up. Not fancy. But still, I’m not making excuses here. I shouldn’t have judged, and I did.

I carry a hairbrush with me. I wash my daughter’s hair daily. And length doesn’t seem to matter, although the longer it gets, the less a wipe can clean stuff out of it. Even toting a hair brush and using water at every sink in town doesn’t get me in and out of anywhere with her hair looking managed!!

In fact, I’ve started wondering if people who have 2 year old daughter’s with managed hair haven’t stuck a wig on their kid’s head, or maybe even tied her hands up while in the car, while eating, while doing anything, really.

I am the mom with the daughter whose ponytail is crooked, whose hair is a mixture of crunchy, crumbly, dusty, and wet/sticky. And if I brush it on my way out the door, it never looks like when we arrive somewhere. And if I brush it when I pull her out of the truck, it looks frayed, frazzled, and poofy.

Why is 2 year old girl hair so hard to manage? It’s impossible, I swear!!!

(Forget bows, headbands, barrettes, flowers, etc!)


See that hair? It had a clip in it like 3 min before this photo!

About Regina Walker

I am a Jesus-girl, wife, mom, writer, sister, daughter, baker, cook, maid, teacher, business partner, farmer, and more. I am busy raising kids, and praying daily for them to be servants of Christ. I am the blessed wife of a very hard working man, together we own and operate our own business. We live on a small farm where we are learning more about sustainable living. We do our best to enjoy life, help others, and use the talents God gave us for His glory. Our goal is to teach our kids to do the same. I welcome all emails - you can reach me at - feel free to email me anytime, just be patient in waiting for my response!
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7 Responses to To The Mom of a Daughter with Hair

  1. With two daughters, don’t get me started on the trials of hair—especially with Emmy’s. LOL.

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  2. Kristin Schultes says:

    Ha! So true! I’m thankful my 5 yr old will let me French braid her hair after a bath! Then the next day she has the braid, and the next day it’s wavy from the braid. The day after that things start going bad again and she needs headbands and clips and eventually another bath! 🙂

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    • Regina Walker says:

      I did successfully french braid my girl’s hair but it’s so fine it all started pulling out very quickly. She loves the idea of a headband and begs to wear them but they last all of 5 min before she pulls them out. I settle for pulling the top section back and into a ponytail to keep it out of her eyes. I hope her hair gets a little thicker so I can do more with it and maybe avoid some of the matted, ratty look.
      Thank you for taking the time to read & comment!


  3. Debbie says:

    How very, very true!!! Moms and baby girls, just doing the best they can 💕. I enjoyed your blog.

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  4. cymom2001 says:

    You are both beautiful- inside and out! I look at some of our family photos and think, really? I let my daughters get in front of a camera like that? Yep I did! Yep it was the best I could do! I agree, when I see a little girl with perfect hair I think- I bet they keep her in a straight jacket until people are looking! LOL

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    • Regina Walker says:

      It just makes me squirm when she rubs ketchup or potatoes or snot through her lovely strands -nits always shortly after I carefully washed them and unmatted them from her cheeks. I sure pictured myself having her hair managed all of the time – but it’s not as simple as washing & brushing.
      Thank you for reading and commenting on my post!

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