Bait and Hook Click Funnel

If you’ve ever set out to learn something online, you may notice that social media starts sending targeted ads about what you want to learn.

For me – I want to turn my writing into a career, through novels, articles, blogging, and more. I set myself up a plan and some pretty good goals. I’ve read a lot about freelance writing and I really felt up to the task and starting the work.

Then the targeted ads started pouring in – join this group, sign up for this training, FREE checklist, paid training, write better, sell more, train, pay, train, pay, and I was signing up left and right for all of the free things. My inbox was getting stacked fuller and fuller – so much so, I couldn’t possibly read all of it in a reasonable amount of time, and the attempt to read it all was stealing time from me actually writing.

It happened with horse training too. Also, my walk with Jesus. It doesn’t take long for those ads to pick up on what we are looking for, and to flood us with content. Baited by free content, and then hooked with an offer to pay to learn how to earn $30,000 a month, just like them!

It starts feeling very scammy – I’m going to collect your money to walk you through how to create a bait and hook, so you can collect money to teach someone else how to do it. I don’t want to bait and hook anyone. I want to participate in real writing opportunities.

So if you’re like me and you are trying to grow in an area of your life, but you’re drowning in content, please take this as permission to unsubscribe, don’t spend your money, and delete the mass of emails you can’t read in a reasonable amount of time.

There is valuable content out there – and a lot of it does cost. Because creators of good content deserve to be paid for their time and energy.

But I’ve never found the best content on social media. I’ve just found the bait and hook click funnel.

Whatever you are working on, creating, or growing through, find resources that truly help you grow, that is important. Remember, not everything will help you along the way. Don’t drain your pocketbook for cheap sells.

Until next time,
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God Speaks

I married a generous man, in fact, he rarely counts the cost to himself when considering helping. He doesn’t measure the hours he worked, or what he’ll do without. If he sees a need, he meets it in whatever practical way he can.

In fact, my husband lives this verse out. I never hear him tell someone he’ll pray for them, but I witness him giving what he has to offer, whether time, money, food, clothing. He gives with a good attitude, too. Like behind the scenes, he doesn’t grumble or complain or nitpick what someone does with whatever he gave. I admire him and he inspires me to be more generous.

What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them? Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. James 2:14-17

What good is it, my brothers and sisters, if someone claims to have faith but has no deeds? Can such faith save them? Suppose a brother or a sister is without clothes and daily food. If one of you says to them, “Go in peace; keep warm and well fed,” but does nothing about their physical needs, what good is it? In the same way, faith by itself, if it is not accompanied by action, is dead. James 2:14-17

 

We were discussing generosity and whether or not we could go overboard with it – like is it possible to give too much? Not so much in the sense of to one person (which can be enabling) but overall. I guess the question was, can we hurt ourselves financially by giving too much? We tossed the idea back and forth but neither of us had a great word of wisdom or idea as to whether or not there was a threshold. A percentage of income, if you will.

Without even looking for a verse or bible teaching on it, a verse found me.

One person gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. Proverbs 11:24-25 NIV

I got to share this verse with my husband and I hope it encouraged him as much as it did me. I believe we will all stand before God and give an account for our lives – even if we’ve accepted Jesus and have received His gracious gift of salvation. This verse assured me that we won’t be found in want as a result of being generous. It also reminded me that I’ll stand before my Creator one day and I’d rather say I gave every chance I could than to say I never gave at all. This also reminded me to give as if I was giving to Jesus and to leave the choices of the recipient between them and God – that part is none of my business.

Until next time,
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A Prayer to Share:

Dear God,
We know that we can never out give You. You have given more than we can measure or count, although we often try. Help us to be in agreement about how to give, when to give, where to give, and help us give in a way that always honors You. Thank you for all You have given us.

In Jesus’ Name,
Amen.

The Fine Art of Self Care

Self care came in a commercial package for me not so long ago – massages, chiropractic appointments, a hair cut, new essential oils, and more. And for a while, it felt like I was becoming a master of self-care. I enjoyed each of these things and was looking less and less at how they affected the checkbook. Good golly, I worked enough long, hard hours to justify the expense, didn’t I?

Self care looks different right now, today. We closed our business just a couple of weeks ago, and the hours have only been more grueling. I’d give my right arm to be able to afford a massage or the chiropractor right now. Suddenly every red cent in the checkbook matters, and I can’t spend money on these things I thought were the only way to self-care.

Turns out, though, that self-care is so much more than just these things. (And please know, I’m not taking away from chiropractic care or massage – both, I believe, are essential to health and wellness.)

Right now, self-care looks like these things:

Going to bed on time.

Getting up before the kids, so I can gather my thoughts for the day.

Putting my phone down.

In fact, I’m just going to park here for a minute, and say it again, sometimes taking care of myself means putting my phone down. No more scrolling, no more articles, no more messages. Because I’ve learned that my phone is the #1 reason that I begin feeling frenetic, like I can’t keep up. In the season we are in, I am juggling guilt, change, regret. Every article I read points me to all the things I could have, would have, should have. Then I can’t focus on the good things in my life, the goodness of God in my life, or how He is moving.

Sometimes self-care is a mental break from all that my phone bombards me with.

Sometimes self-care is a shower – nothing fancy, no aromatherapy, no relaxation shower gel, just a shower. Hot water, wash my hair, and conquer the day.

Sometimes self-care is reading a book, or more importantly, sometimes self-care is reading my bible.

Self care comes in the form of prayer – laying all of my worries at the feet of my Father and letting Him carry me.

Sometimes self-care isn’t alone, so much as it nestling into the crook of my husband’s arm and crying because this is hard. Or staying up late trying to make clay pots together. (I’ll share more about this adventure in a day or two.)

Sometimes self-care is doing hard tasks, draining ones, so that they are on the done side of the list, instead of the do side. Sometimes shortening the do list makes it easier to fall asleep at night.

Sometimes self-care is closing my bedroom door for some quiet to talk to my mom, because I need to hear her voice. Sometimes it’s not closing my door to talk to my sister, because she has just as much noise and chaos on her end and it’s how we do life together.

Sometimes self-care is writing – whether journaling, blogging, working on a novel. Writing is part of who I am.

I’d like to be able to make a trip to the chiropractor (and my tingling nerves would like it too) but in this season where I can’t, I don’t have to neglect myself. I don’t have to give in to this notion that self-care costs money that I don’t have.

How can you take care of yourself without spending any money, today? Share with me in the comments below.

 

Until next time,

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